social network plugin

hey 🙂

i’m looking for a social network plugin like
buddypress or mingle or maybe someone can help me with
my problems with this plugins:

i just want that every registered user has a profile
with a few data (like bio, address … )
and other users can search for users and can contact them
via internal messenges.
Maybe a friend system 🙂 that is all.

problems with:
buddypress:
works fine but wanted to use the Elbee Elgee 1.3.7 Theme,
this is the only one with an account control widget,
if you log out, there is no login bar, instead some kind of
buggy profile edit buttons 🙁

mingle:
better than buddypress, works fine all the way,
but users cant search for other users … 🙁 any
ideas?

so this would be everythink, hope there is someone out here
who can help me ^^

greetings from germany Kaito.

ps: a small side question,
is it possible to split post categories on
two sides?
For excample: <news about the homepage> and <movie news>
? 🙂