Hey Jason! Thanks for the words here, and for your use of the calendar. We appreciate your support and apologize for taking a little while to get back to you. (August is traditionally our slow month, as much of the team takes their vacations during that period). Now that we’re back in action and getting up to speed on missed threads, I want to help you out here.
Sounds like if I understand correctly, you just want to modify the time display in the events widget to match up with what you’ve got elsewhere on the site. Totally doable; just copy events-list-load-widget-display.php over to a new ‘events’ folder in your theme directory, and you can make all the changes you want to it (that file is what controls the widget output so it should give you what you need). If you don’t have much familiarity with date/time formatting in WordPress, this nice entry from their codex should be of value: http://codex.wordpress.org/Formatting_Date_and_Time.
Hope that helps. If you still have questions from there, do let us know. Thanks again for your support and patience so far.