That menu is provided by the staff at wordpress.COM. "We" here, don't have any control over the wordpress.COM stuff. You'll have to make up your own menus, through the links I provided above..
However, I believe there is Admin theme's out there, that *might* do, or be like ya want though.. I'm just not sure about them, because I've never used them before.. =/ Maybe someone else will stop by here, and explain better. ;) =)
spencerp
I know ya said the menu like wordpress.com in the title, I was just trying to avoid that at first, because I didn't wanna suggest Hacking/tinkering with the wp-admin/ directory files and such.. LOL! =P