That page IS really helpful - thanks.
I'm still puzzled, I need to read those links a few more times. I did see this in one of the online docs:
To view your CSS, either know the actual address (or have it already on your hard drive), or scroll down through the HTML page to the following reference:
<link rel="style sheet" type="text/css" href="wordpress/wp-content/themes/default/style.css">
What they describe here is what I'm expecting to see in all my template files, a reference to style.css.
Are bloginfo and stylesheet_url placeholders or what?
I probably haven't explained my self clearly at all. But I'll keep reviewing these docs.
Do you see WHY I'm confused??
btw- I have figured out SOME of WordPress. I've added a permalink link to all my output pages and got my categories all organized and structured in the sidebar. But I'm so stuck on this one thing.
Just found this, which answers my question. This is what I was missing after you told me about what's in the header file:
'stylesheet_url' - URL for primary CSS file. Returns: http//example.com/wp-content/themes/ + your-active-theme-name(value from wp_options, "stylesheet" row) + "/style.css"(hardcoded in functions.php)