I'm sure it's one stupid little thing I did on accident.
First of all, I was happily working right along in wordpress, making changes and all kinds of updates, etc to http://bookthatevent.com/wordpress - 3.3 This is my actual website.
And then somehow (obviously it's my fault) I connected it to an old blog that I had (because a video told me I should)
So then when I log in to wordpress.com, and I look in the upper right hand corner user info, I get Book That Event and bookthatevents blog.
When I click on the blog one, I get ALL kinds of options to edit my dashboard. But it's a blog, and I didn't do anythign with it except put my logo up (years ago)
Then my Book That Event site (which I've done lots of stuff on, all the dashboard options have disappeared ???
At first I thought maybe it's because I combined the two "accounts" but maybe it's because I did an update?