I'd like to report a solution to this problem! At last
Part of the problem I believe is that I’m using cPanel, and most of the gruels are not.
Anyway, I was in odesk on an unrelated problem and noticed how many WordPress experts they had. So I decided to post a job and see if someone else can do this for me.
While there may be many WordPress experts there, none of them knew anything about domain mapping. I forgot about the job post after rejecting 25 or so applicants. Last week a new applicant, the first one who answered all the criteria mainly to give me the URLs of a few multiplayer sites that they had done.
To make a long story short he not only solve the problem. But made some interesting changes to wp-config.php, robots text, installed a couple of helpful modules and more or less tuned up the whole site. All for under $100.
I asked him if he would do it for a flat fee rather than by the hour. He agreed under the following conditions one that it’s a cPanel site two that he has FTP access.
For a new site without any garbage in this price is $70 if it’s an existing site that needs repair the price $100. Now comes the interesting part. Is the owner and designer of a WordPress multiuser site with 99,000 some users http://www.bloglines.co.za His name is Mark de Scande and you can reach him at http://www.odesk.com
Hope that helps someone else!