Theme customization missing after malware and database changes

My site got hacked and then it kept saying cannot reach database, I had to make some changes to the database and now I can access the site and the admin area but my theme customizations are gone, my page content is still there.

I have checked the wp_options table and I am not seeing anything off, I think my issue is the wp_postmeta table but I cannot for the life of me figure out how to fix it.

Any help is much appreciated this has been a nightmare!