remote connection

hi, I am desperately trying to install wp. I have a hosting plan without database running on win2003 (I’ll call it server1) but I can have access to mysql databases in another server (server2) so I completed the connection string as you see below:

define(‘DB_NAME’, ‘thisi30t_wp’);
define(‘DB_USER’, ‘thisi30t_blsrl’)
define(‘DB_PASSWORD’, ‘********’);
define(‘DB_HOST’, ‘thisismywebsite.profuse.net’);

The error is> Error establishing a database connection
This either means that the username and password information in your wp-config.php file is incorrect or we can’t contact the database server at 69.50.184.178. This could mean your host’s database server is down.

What can I do? I also allowed the server1 from the cPanel of the server2.

Thanks
Dave