Ok. not a big code genius here, but like I said in the second post, I figured how My theme deals with recent posts in the sidebar
$myposts = get_posts('numberposts=10&offset=1');
foreach($myposts as $post) :
and I know that when you add widgets (twitter,etc...) to the sidebar, it overrides the sidebar code and you must then add each widget, (recent, archive, etc...) from available widgets. The widget options does allow you to state how many recent posts you would like to display, but doesn't allow you to remove the most recent (offset=1) I've looked every where I can't find where to hack it.