This is half right.
PLEASE any WordPress experts have some advice?
Here's what I have so far.
I can exclude the recurring events if I tag them with a custom "event category" or "recurring-events" as the slug.
However, I'd still like to avoid this route ... and just be able to list the recurring events as one event.
There is a "recurring" and a "recurrance" option.
But those will return either JUST THE ONE recurring events or if you turn it off then they list EVERYTHING including the individual ocurrences of the recurring events.
This has to be pretty straight forward, in recurring events, its its own post-type. And there is a start and end date.
All the data is there to make it work, I just can't seem to pull it together properly - but still include other posts.
FOR THE SEARCHERS:
Here is the pastebin
IDS with excluded custom taxonomy