Had to use something else.
1: The plugin "Welcome Pack" allows you to erase the activation link in that email
( If you recently upgraded BP then you'll have to wait for the next version since the developer is updating it for that release bc the last BP 1.2.7 broke it) . Then you can Manually Activate . I had header conflict with some themes except Custom Community.
2: Having Admin create users and disabling registrations stops the activation email.
( Registration on a separate site reduces the damage affect of hackers anyway)
3: Zachary has an intensive hack. This issue is still on BP. @Vanmurray had also been working on this.