Where do you “specify” the order and what is the template tag (and its parameters) for displaying the Pages.
Maybe reading about Template_Tags/wp_list_pages will give you the answer.
(hint: it is there…)
I had the same problem and solved by simply by putting a space in front of the page title. For instance if there are 4 pages put 4spaces in front of the top page, 3 in front of the second page and so on. The spaces don’t show so it solves the problem. You can see it here: