Missing top menu bar for editing etc…

Hi everyone. So for our site incommunion.org we moved to update everything a while ago but ever since we have done new updates past 3.0 our top menu for editing etc is missing. That means once logged in there is a space at the top for the nice grey bar, but nothing appears. Everything else looks okay. I have not upgraded to the most recent yet. I tried a couple times but got failure messages. All other sites I updated past 3.0 got the editing bar and all was fine.

Does anyone know what might be going on?

Here is a screen shot what happens once its logged in…
http://www.test.m3designs.org/test/Screen%20shot%202011-09-15%20at%201.06.02%20PM.png
As you can see there is space for it but nothing appears.
normally it looks like this: http://www.incommunion.org/

Any wisdom? Your help is much appreciated! A