If you are having trouble finding WP people in your local area to connect with then join our new online WordPress meetup. Our speaker tomorrow night is John James Jacoby (Twitter: @JJJ), the lead developer on BuddyPress.
This will be a Google Hangout on Air, so those who want to be on video will be first come, first serve. Everyone, however, can participate in the YouTube channel we have set up for the occasion.
Here is the event link: