“Perhaps you are trying to tell me I should use an alternative program where I can get answers.”
Perhaps not. Perhaps the volunteers are just too busy. There are a lot of questions posted daily and perhaps there aren’t enough volunteers to be able to answer all of them in a “timely” manner?”
In response to your second post: try something like “grep -i pages *” in your theme’s directory. That will show you all the files where that word exists. Most likely, you need to change your “sidebar.php” file.