Ok, I've done both of those. It appears to still not work, but with some further investigation, I've found that it may have to do with the way I am getting the posts to my site. I currently use the Automatic Youtube Video Posts plugin which creates a post on my word press site any time i upload something to youtube. So these are coming in differently than one that I just put the html embed text in the post.
Any idea on how to get the content to work the way I would like or to get the plugin to do the same.
I'm willing to switch plugins if I need to, as long as I can make it easier on my web team to not have to spend as much time posting.