I found the solution, hope fully it will help others in need:
If you need to remove the WP generated Home button on your navbar (With artisteer template)
go into the functions.php file
scroll down to(its way at the bottom):
Home
EOD;
$showHomeMenuItem = true;
$isHomeSelected = null;
and change to
Home
EOD;
$showHomeMenuItem = null;
$isHomeSelected = null;
change true to null and it takes it away!
Now I can just make all my own links with the 'pagemash' and 'link-page-to' plug-ins instead!
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and to change the links, I got the answer from another forum, I will post it for you here:
You just need a couple of plug-ins.
Page-links-to will allow you to create a page who's title will automatically be added to the menu but the menu can link to anywhere, even outside your site. The page will be blank but the menu item will have a link.
Exclude-pages will allow you to have pages that don't show up on the menu.
Page-mash will allow you to re-arrange the order of the menus including child pages.
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I hope this helps those in need of the same solutions
Emily Rose