I already tried turning off plugins, especially lightroom, which did not do much... my site can take as much as 30 seconds to load.
I installed firebug on firefox and watched it unfold. There are a lot of 404 errors as it loads... and those errors each take 2 to 8 seconds.
Here is my site:
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/
I'm going to list the error messages now. I have no idea what they mean:
GET wp-builder.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-builder.js
GET wp-effects.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous
GET wp-dragdrop.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-dragdrop.js
GET wp-controls.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-controls.js
GET wp-slider.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-slider.js
GET wp-sound.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-sound.js
Then a few 304 no modified's show up and then back to 4 more 404's:
GET wp-dragdrop.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-dragdrop.js
GET wp-controls.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-controls.js
GET wp-slider.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-slider.js
GET wp-sound.js
http://willyrichardson.com/blog/wp-includes/js/scriptaculous/wp-sound.js