not sure how to reset permalinks without the dashboard.
Otherwise, to make sure i understand this-
i renamed the plugins folder "pluginsX" through my ftp. this did not make a difference but the site still loaded. (still no CSS).
I then renamed the twentytwelve theme to "pinboard-child" (which is the name of the theme im trying to use). and changed the real one to "pinboard-childX". Is that what you meant? This now caused the page to be not found at all.
After changing back the theme folder names and attempting to load the page it now would not load at all.
I then changed the index.php file in the main domain directory. so when i go to 'jbournedesign.com' i get an index of subfolders instead of the main site. I then selected the folder for the site im trying to load and it once again loaded(no CSS). I then tried to access the wp-admin and once again recieved a page not found error. This is the exact error:
The requested URL /index.php was not found on this server.
Additionally, a 404 Not Found error was encountered while trying to use an ErrorDocument to handle the request.
Apache Server at jbournedesign.com Port 80