Show home page in sidebar links

I messed up my original post so I’m trying this again:

Can someone help me apply wp_page_menu ( http://codex.wordpress.org/Template_Tags/wp_page_menu ) to my sidebar links?

I know I need to replace wp_list_pages with wp_page_menu, and set “show home” to “true.” But I can’t figure out how. I’m still fairly new to php.

<ul>
<?php

// for sidebar widgets
if ( !function_exists( 'dynamic_sidebar' ) || !dynamic_sidebar( ) )
{

    // search bar
    sp_sidebar_open( "searchbar", "<h2>Search</h2>" );
    include (TEMPLATEPATH . '/searchform.php');
    sp_sidebar_close( );

    // pages
    sp_sidebar_open( "pages", "<h2>Pages</h2>" );
        echo '<ul>';
        wp_list_pages("title_li=&sort_column=menu_order&class=");
        echo '</ul>';
    sp_sidebar_close( );
} // sidebar widgets

?>
</ul>

Someone earlier suggested changing the line to:
wp_page_menu(‘show_home=1&sort_column=menu_order’);

But that didn’t work probably due to my earlier errors

my page: http://sheynawatkins.com/wordpress/
(uses WordPress 2.3.3)

The page I will apply all this to: http://www.elizabethhanbury.com/
(uses WordPress 2.7)