I cant figure out why, but I cant get the AJAX working (I have both wp_header/footer calls).
Specifically, the scripts are never loaded.
I've given up, and in the header just use a hard coded:
<?php
if ( WPCF7_LOAD_JS ) { ?>
<script type="text/javascript" src="/wp-content/plugins/contact-form-7/scripts.js"></script>
<script type='text/javascript' src='/wp-includes/js/jquery/jquery.form.js?ver=2.02'></script>
<?php } ?>
This works fine with no conflicts.