Please Help ! 404 errors for index.php, 403 errors for uploads

Hi esmi, thank you SO MUCH for your help !
my blog is here : http://www.hotgaylinks.net/gay_porn_blog/
and yes, I have tried playing with the permissions and that changed nothing…. there seems to be alot of directory confusion, permalink and .htaccess confusion… It all seems to be the same problem, so here are the symptoms of what seems to be one and the same problem :
I am trying to use this custom structure :

/%year%/%monthnum%/%day%/%category%/%tags%/%postname%/

or

/index.php/%year%/%monthnum%/%day%/%category%/%tags%/%postname%/

they do not work, however for some reason, if I remove %tags%/, this DOES work :
/%year%/%monthnum%/%day%/%category%/%postname%/

HOWEVER, the permalink settings page tells me “You should update your .htaccess now.”

and to add this :

<IfModule mod_rewrite.c>
RewriteEngine On
RewriteBase /gay_porn_blog/
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_FILENAME} !-f
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_FILENAME} !-d
RewriteRule . /gay_porn_blog/index.php [L]
</IfModule>

which is exactly what I am using… so there seems to be a problem with directory structures ?
BTW, I also have this in the .htaccess file :

# -FrontPage-

IndexIgnore .htaccess */.??* *~ *# */HEADER* */README* */_vti*
Options +FollowSymlinks

<Limit GET POST>
order deny,allow
deny from all
allow from all
</Limit>
<Limit PUT DELETE>
order deny,allow
deny from all
</Limit>
AuthName hotgaylinks.net
AuthUserFile /home/hotgayli/public_html/_vti_pvt/service.pwd
AuthGroupFile /home/hotgayli/public_html/_vti_pvt/service.grp

# BEGIN WordPress
<IfModule mod_rewrite.c>
RewriteEngine On
RewriteBase /gay_porn_blog/
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_FILENAME} !-f
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_FILENAME} !-d
RewriteRule . /gay_porn_blog/index.php [L]
</IfModule>
# END WordPress

# BEGIN WPSuperCache
<IfModule mod_rewrite.c>
RewriteEngine On
RewriteBase /gay_porn_blog/
AddDefaultCharset UTF-8
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_URI} !^.*[^/]$
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_URI} !^.*//.*$
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_METHOD} !POST
RewriteCond %{QUERY_STRING} !.*=.*
RewriteCond %{HTTP:Cookie} !^.*(comment_author_|wordpress|wp-postpass_).*$
RewriteCond %{HTTP_USER_AGENT} !^.*(Android|2.0\ MMP|240x320|AvantGo|BlackBerry|Blazer|Cellphone|Danger|DoCoMo|Elaine/3.0|EudoraWeb|hiptop|IEMobile|iPhone|iPod|KYOCERA/WX310K|LG/U990|MIDP-2.0|MMEF20|MOT-V|NetFront|Newt|Nintendo\ Wii|Nitro|Nokia|Opera\ Mini|Palm|Playstation\ Portable|portalmmm|Proxinet|ProxiNet|SHARP-TQ-GX10|Small|SonyEricsson|Symbian\ OS|SymbianOS|TS21i-10|UP.Browser|UP.Link|Windows\ CE|WinWAP).*
RewriteCond %{HTTP:Accept-Encoding} gzip
RewriteCond %{DOCUMENT_ROOT}/gay_porn_blog/wp-content/cache/supercache/%{HTTP_HOST}/gay_porn_blog/$1/index.html.gz -f
RewriteRule ^(.*) /gay_porn_blog/wp-content/cache/supercache/%{HTTP_HOST}/gay_porn_blog/$1/index.html.gz [L]

RewriteCond %{REQUEST_URI} !^.*[^/]$
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_URI} !^.*//.*$
RewriteCond %{REQUEST_METHOD} !POST
RewriteCond %{QUERY_STRING} !.*=.*
RewriteCond %{HTTP:Cookie} !^.*(comment_author_|wordpress|wp-postpass_).*$
RewriteCond %{HTTP_USER_AGENT} !^.*(Android|2.0\ MMP|240x320|AvantGo|BlackBerry|Blazer|Cellphone|Danger|DoCoMo|Elaine/3.0|EudoraWeb|hiptop|IEMobile|iPhone|iPod|KYOCERA/WX310K|LG/U990|MIDP-2.0|MMEF20|MOT-V|NetFront|Newt|Nintendo\ Wii|Nitro|Nokia|Opera\ Mini|Palm|Playstation\ Portable|portalmmm|Proxinet|ProxiNet|SHARP-TQ-GX10|Small|SonyEricsson|Symbian\ OS|SymbianOS|TS21i-10|UP.Browser|UP.Link|Windows\ CE|WinWAP).*
RewriteCond %{DOCUMENT_ROOT}/gay_porn_blog/wp-content/cache/supercache/%{HTTP_HOST}/gay_porn_blog/$1/index.html -f
RewriteRule ^(.*) /gay_porn_blog/wp-content/cache/supercache/%{HTTP_HOST}/gay_porn_blog/$1/index.html [L]
</IfModule>
# END WPSuperCache
RewriteRule ^post/([0-9]+)?/?([0-9]+)?/?$ /index.php?p=$1&page=$2 [QSA]

Again, Thank you for your help, I have been turning in circles for weeks !

best wishes,

clueless webmaster

I am wondering now… should I have this in my .htaccess file ? it comes from the .htaccess just inside my domain.net/ and my blog is my_domain.net/myblog/ :

# -FrontPage-

IndexIgnore .htaccess */.??* *~ *# */HEADER* */README* */_vti*
Options +FollowSymlinks

<Limit GET POST>
order deny,allow
deny from all
allow from all
</Limit>
<Limit PUT DELETE>
order deny,allow
deny from all
</Limit>
AuthName hotgaylinks.net
AuthUserFile /home/hotgayli/public_html/_vti_pvt/service.pwd
AuthGroupFile /home/hotgayli/public_html/_vti_pvt/service.grp

is this bit out of place perhaps ?

best wishes,
clueless

Hello again ESMI,

And again, Thank you very much for your help.

I don’t have that is my root .htaccess file….

it contains only :

# -FrontPage-

IndexIgnore .htaccess */.??* *~ *# */HEADER* */README* */_vti*
Options +FollowSymlinks

<Limit GET POST>
order deny,allow
deny from all
allow from all
</Limit>
<Limit PUT DELETE>
order deny,allow
deny from all
</Limit>
AuthName hotgaylinks.net
AuthUserFile /home/hotgayli/public_html/_vti_pvt/service.pwd
AuthGroupFile /home/hotgayli/public_html/_vti_pvt/service.grp

BUT, after emptying cache, my permalinks seem to be working just fine since I removed “tags” from the code… I am just using this : /%year%/%monthnum%/%day%/%category%/%postname%/ and it seems to be fine…

HOWEVER, there does seem to be some directory confusion at some point, I am receiving a billion e-mails telling me :

“A user tried to go to http://www.hotgaylinks.net/gay_porn_blog/gay_porn_blog/wp-content/themes/btEX/BTextended/images/feed.gif and received a 404 (page not found) error. It wasn’t their fault, so try fixing it.
They came from http://www.hotgaylinks.net/gay_porn_blog/&#8221;

OBVIOUSLY, the problem is at : http://www.hotgaylinks.net/gay_porn_blog/gay_porn_blog/wp-content/

(/gay_porn_blog/gay_porn_blog/) perhaps the problem is theme related ? but something somewhere is trying to find my WordPress folder “gay_porn_blog” one directory deeper than it is…

BUT I finally got the permalinks to work correctly… so I am, as always,

LOST & CLUELESS.

any ideas ? thank you for your help.