actually I did use Write>Page to add the About Page.......
the site is at http://blog.vanitysource.com
On the top nav menu, there is a link to the main site (vanitysource) home, a link to the "blog" home, a link back to the vanitysource contact form (since WP would not let me put any HTML into a page I had to do the "contact" page that way), and then the "About" page that I created using WP - Write>Page - that is in the posts table in the database and is correctly titled and identified, but when you click on the nav link for "About" it goes to the only post I have entered instead of the About page. The permalinks for posts/archives/categories seem to work as they also go to that post.
Although the site is live the blog is new so I have only one post entered (the customer is going to start posting as soon as I have this all set up correctly) but I am stuck on this one last issue.
So if someone can tell me where in the code is the function to tell the About link where to find the About page in the database I can probably fix that - but I've been all over all the pages (functions.php, archive.php, page.php, etc) and can't seem to find it.