Okay, I found this here:
Display Home as a Page
The following example causes "Home" to be added to the beginning of the list of Pages displayed. In addition, the Pages wrapped in a div element, Page IDs 5, 9, and 23, are excluded from the list of Pages displayed, and the pages are listed in Page Order. The list is prefaced with the title, "Page Menu",
<?php wp_page_menu('show_home=1&exclude=5,9,23&menu_class=page-navi&sort_column=menu_order'); ?>
I have now added the code adjusted the css and the menus are as I hoped.
Many thanks for working through this with me, Esmi. It took a little digging on my part once you pointed me in the right direction.