Op.. nevermind, I tweaked it to death and found a way around, I'll post this here in case anyone in the future wants to do something odd like I did... o_O(yeah I couldn't make up my mind)
In index.php I deleted the code that handled showing how many comments a post had, and deleted the code that showed the author, categories of the post, and time it was posted. This looks a lot neater and cleans things up
then...
replace the <?php the_content(__('(more...)')); ?>
with
<?php if(is_category(1))
{
} else {
the_content('» » »');
} ?>
</div>
to make category 1 be the page that shows nothing but titles.
In my case I decided to display very short excerpts by using the <!--more--> technique. That's when you write a post normally, type a sentance or two, insert <!--more--> and keep typeing. It'll take everything before the <!--more--> and use that as a summery.
I made a category called "all entries" (category(1)) and set it so that when I click that category all the summeries dissapear leaving ONLY the titles.
To make this for all categories put this in stead...
<?php if(is_category())
{
} else {
the_content('» » »');
} ?>
</div>
This will make it so that the main page(when you click your blog's title / can't be avoided) shows things with short summeries, but if clicking on any category to navigate, summeries will dissapear.
My webiste's http://www.CordlessToxin.com , head over and check how it turned out.