Customizing my slideshow

I am a freelance photographer and I started a website as a way of showing my portfolio. I have tried a number of plugins, but I cannot get them to do exactly what I want. It’s always certain elements of each one that I like, but never totally.

My website is http://www.tinaleggiophotography.com/ I have a few slideshows up now, but I’m not happy with them. I really like the way the slideshow on http://erickimphotography.com/ is set up. That is exactly what I want. I want the slideshow not open up in a new window, with the direction arrows, number of images and thumbnails of the images on the bottom, the thumbnails to be responsive if you don’t want to browse through the entire window and for it to have a fade effect. I have looked through countless pages of different types of plug ins but none of them seem to have all the elements I’m looking for. I can attempt to alter the code if need be, but I am a WordPress newbie, so coding is all very new to me. If anyone can help me I would really appreciate it. Thanks in advance!